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Episode 223: We All Do This and It Helps No One

April 09, 2025 • Connie Stapleton, Ph.D. • Episode 223

Now, THAT’s a vague episode title! And it’s vague on purpose! None of us want to admit to … well, our less than healthy behaviors. Yet the truth is, we all engage in behaviors we would be mortified if others were to witness. The topic of this episode describes a type of behavior and mindset I would bet every one of us has engaged in at some points in time. For a percentage of people, this becomes a way of life. Others can see it clearly, but the one entrenched in this is usually oblivious… because they are hurting. Their attitude and behaviors results in continued self-sabotage and pushing others away. Enough of the mysteriousness…. Buckle your seatbelt, open your mind and let’s take a look at this topic. If you’re honest enough to see how this describes you, there are suggestions for pivoting into a healthier, more productive way of dealing. Let’s get started!

Resources:

BariAfterare: www.bariaftercare.com

Connie Stapleton PhD website: www.conniestapletonphd.com

BariAftercare website: https://www.conniestapletonphd.com/bariaftercare

BariAftercare Facebook page (for members only): https://www.facebook.com/groups/BariAftercare

Kevin Stephens: Your Bariatric Buddy https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourbariatricbuddy/people

Instagram: @cale101 (Caleshia Haynes)

Instagram: @therealbariboss (Tabitha Johnson)

Instagram @drsusanmitchell (Dr. Susan Mitchell)

Instagram: @lauraleepreston (Laura Preston)

ProCare Vitamins (10% off with code ConnieStapleton)

Rob DiMedio: https://www.busybariatrics.com/

Dr. Joan Brugman: drjbrugman@outlook.com

Dr. Susan Mitchell:

https://www.facebook.com/DrSusanMitchell

https://www.facebook.com/bariatricsurgerystrategies

Victim Mentality: 10 Ways to Help Clients Conquer Victimhood https://positivepsychology.com/victim-mentality/

The Agony and Ecstasy of Victimhood https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/putting-psyche-back-into-psychotherapy/202401/the-agony-and-ecstasy-of-victimhood

Victim Mentality: Definition, Causes, and Ways to Cope https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-victim-mentality-5120615

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